Community is a place where you find love and acceptence for who you are and where you are. Community sees your imperfections and sins and still says “I love you anyway”. Community also holds you accountable when you do screw up. Community doesn’t cast you aside and give up on you but they don’t sit back and let it slide either.

However, just because someone in the community screws up and it hurts others in that community, that doesn’t mean that community is no longer there or that it never was. Yes, as a community you strive to do what is best for others. As a Christian, you are supposed to esteem one another and put one another ahead of yourself. You try not to make stupid, selfish decisions that will hurt other people. But sometimes you do screw up. And if community is really there, then the people in it won’t act like nothing has happened and they won’t give up on you. Part of community is addressing sin. It’s not one of the fun parts but it is a part. It means you ask tough questions and give tough answers. It means you risk people being mad at you. It means, with love and patience, you work through whatever it is together.

It’s okay to be mad. It’s okay to be hurt. It’s okay to be confused. It’s okay to need to take a break from people. But don’t give up on the people within the community because if you do, then that is what says that the community was never there. People are people. They will screw up. They will hurt others. Part of community is being open and vulnerable and trusting those around you. Sometimes that trust is broken and has to be rebuilt. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it makes you mad. But that’s okay. What isn’t okay is giving up on people because they make mistakes. People are stupid, selfish beings. Remember that if you found yourself in a similar situation, no matter how unlikely it may seem at the time, you would probably want mercy and grace and love. It’s hard but it’s worth it. Jesus didn’t call us to forgive just when it was easy.