False Self

* Security and significance achieved by what we have, what we can do, and what others think of us.

* Happiness is sought in autonomy from God and in attachments.

* Identity is our idealized self (who we want others to think we are).

* Achieved by means of pretense and practice.

* Maintained by effort and control

* Embraces illusion as a means of attempting to become a god.

True Self

* Security and significance achieved by being deeply loved by God.

* Fulfillment found in surrender to God and fulfilling our vocation.

* Identity is who we are – and are becoming – in Christ.

* Received as a gift with gratitude and surrender.

* Maintained by grace.

* Embraces reality as the place of meeting and being transformed by God.