I just finished reading ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’. I found it a couple of years ago and it’s been on my to-read list ever since. Very funny, very easy read. I think all women should have to read this book.

At the end of the book, the authors give Standard Suggestions. They are:

* I will not go out with a man who hasn’t asked me out first.

* I will not go out with a man who keeps me waiting by the phone.

* I will not date a man who isn’t sure he wants to date me.

* I will not date a man who makes me feel sexually undesirable.

* I will not date a man who drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable.

* I will not be with a man who is afraid to talk about our future.

* I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me.

* I will not date a man who is married.

* I will not be with a man who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.

You want to know why I’m still single? Because I have yet to find a man who meets those standards. I “hate” men because so few manage to live up to even a decent guy level. And that list isn’t even all of mine. Here are some of my personal standards:

* I will not date a man who shows no growth in his spiritual walk or has none at all.

* I will not date a man who makes me look/feel like an idiot in front of my friends or family.

* I will not date a man who only wants me for my body.

* I will not even speak to a man who doesn’t know how to treat me and every other woman with respect.

* I will not date a man who doesn’t treat his momma right.

* I will not date a man who has no purpose in life, gives nothing of himself to others, can’t hold down a job, doesn’t have friends of his own, and simply doesn’t have his act together.

* I will not date a man who claims not to have money and then blows tons of it on alcohol or new toys.

* I will not date a man who isn’t willing to love and build a relationship with my family and friends.

* I will not date a man who gives into violent fits or has a nasty temper.

* I will kick the ass of any man who tries to force himself on me.

* I will not date a man who is inconsiderate.

* I will not date a man who is needy and clingy and doesn’t know how to give me space.

* I will not date a man who makes excuses for poor behavior and choices.

* I will not date a man who blames everyone else for his problems.

* I will definitely not change my mind and date a man who, if he asks me out and I reject him, decides to be a jerk and torment me or calls me a lesbian.

Now, you tell me. Am I unreasonable? Are my standards too high? Do you think I’m full of myself? Or do I simply realize that I am a beautiful, unique, beloved child of God who deserves to be treated as such?

Women, we deserve to be loved. We deserve to feel like a queen. Don’t lower your standards. Don’t waste your time on men who obviously aren’t worth it. You are worth the wait. Men, you deserve to be loved too. Don’t lower your standards either. Work on becoming the type of person you want to be married to and you will have no trouble attracting them.

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